So lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with everything a person can think of to do. Especially when you are a father and a husband. So I wanted to share some thoughts about a book I found. I need lots of help sometimes keeping things like work, home life and what you thought your life would be like at age 43, in perspective.
So the book I’m talking about is (Love-Yourself-Like-Your-Depends)
I realized that the way I was talking to myself, a lot, was not how I’d want others to talk to me. Something to think about when you feel really down, or when you feel like you just have too much to do, too many projects at work that need to get done. I sometimes feel so overwhelmed I just want to move and do something else, live somewhere where everything is cheap, and life is slow.
I even sometimes fantasize about a small town somewhere on a coast and working at a small cafe or something with little to no stress. But with kids and wife and their friends, their wants and desires, I have to think of them. In thinking of my family, I sometimes forget about me, forget that I need to like who I am and love myself.
In the book it talks about how you talk to yourself and when I started to really look at how I spoke to myself, I noticed I was my worse enemy. How could others like me, not that having everyone like you matter, but how can I truly expect to have great relationships, awesome clients, and an easier life if I’m tearing myself down with words like. “I’m tired of this crap” or “I wish I could be better” or “why does this always happen to me?”
Do I still get overwhelmed, of course I do! I sometimes sit in a meeting and think to myself that all this technology or these concerns mean nothing, life means more than this, but I am quick to tell myself that life is good and this is how life is. It’s ok not everything is done yet, it’s ok I’m not perfect and that I love myself. Anyone who thinks, or judges a person who has confidence in themselves and loves life as “cocky” or stuck up, then all I can say is good luck in life and smile at them and wish the best, and most importantly, love yourself!